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Coaching for Transformative Change using the Enneagram: A Path to Self Discovery
The Enneagram is a framework for understanding more about ourselves. It was introduced to the West by Gurdjieff in the early 1900’s as a tool for transformation. Later in the 20th Century, other teachers and scholars correlated the 9 points of human consciousness with 9 personality domains present in humans.Enneagram organizes vast complexities of human behavior into a useable form. We can work with in on many levels .As we use this rich tool we become more aware of our personality, habits, and patterns stemming from our genetic blueprint and our upbringing and life experiences. Awareness of the way the 9 dominant personality points of view-gives us insight into ourselves, those around us, our relationships and our work.
The Enneagram Symbol
The Enneagram symbol is a circle with nine points connected in a distinctive pattern of intersecting lines. It is an ancient symbol that describes the path of development. Within each type are healthy, average, and unhealthy patterns and no one type is better than any other. We have all the types within us but one is our specialty.
Gloria has a Masters in Counseling Education and a BA in Social Work. She is a certified coach with the Deep Coaching Institute, an Accredited Enneagram School and Approved Coach Training Program with the International Coach Federation. She’s a NCC certified counselor and certified spiritual director who has worked in both the public and the private sector, and is now in private practice in Menlo Park, CA.
Gloria may be contacted at email@example.com or through her website at www.taffee.com
(All of these resources are listed on Gloria’s website at www.taffee.com.)
- InsideOut Enneagram, The Game Changing Guide for Leaders by Wendy Appel, 2011
- Personality Types: Using the Enneagram for Self-Discovery by Don Riso and Russ Hudson, 1996
- The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Don Riso and Russ Hudson, 1999
- Understanding the Enneagram: The Practical Guide to Personality Types by Don Riso and Russ Hudson, 2000
- Essential Enneagram The Definitive Personality Test and Self Discovery Guide by David Daniels and Virginia Price. 2009
- Deep Coaching, Using the Enneagram as a Catalyst for Profound Change, Roxanne Howe-Murphy, 2007
- Deep Living, Roxanne Howe-Murphy, (in press)
Exercise for Listeners: Enneagram Social Style Groupings
There are several ways to cluster the 9 Enneagram types into triads. In this example, we’ll use the work of Don Riso and Russ Hudson (based on psychoanalyst Karen Horney) who connected the Enneagram types that correspond to each of Horney’s coping solutions.
Three broad groups of three types each, are based upon their Social Style or sense of self in social environments:
• Moving Away from People (Withdrawn types)
• Moving Against People (Assertive types)
• Moving Towards People (Dutiful types)
Riso and Hudson went on to connect each of these coping strategies with corresponding Enneagram types.
(Adapted from Deep Living: Transforming Your Relationship to Everything That Matters through the Enneagram, by Roxanne Howe-Murphy, in press)
- What’s it like for you to walk into an environment of acquaintances and people that you do not know well, if at all?
- Imagine that you are about to walk into a professional meeting (networking event) including some people you know and some you don’t know at all.
- What do you notice about your body’s response? What are your thoughts?
- What is your emotional state? What do you notice about your behavior? How much does your outer behavior reflect your inner experience?
- Do you feel a sense of discomfort but mask that with friendly chatter?
- Do you quickly say hello and look for a place to sit.
- Do you confidently approach the facilitator and introduce yourself?
Analysis of How You Deal with the Stress of Interpersonal Relationships
Your honest reflection about this scenario may give you a window into your customary approach to dealing with the stress of interpersonal relationships.
• Withdrawn types (Enneagram Types Nine, Four, and Five). People in this cluster tend to move away and retreat from active engagement (social, physical, emotional, or intellectual) with others.
• Assertive types (Enneagram types Three, Seven, and Eight) try to insert their personal power or influence into a relationship, conversation, conflict or decision. They can be said to be moving against other people.
• Dutiful types (Enneagram Types One, Two, and Six) can be said to be moving towards other people with the purpose of being responsible, helpful, and dutiful.
Each Enneagram type has an inner world that provides what feels like safe space in order to avoid external demands that may feel too overwhelming.
More about the Withdrawn types
• People in this cluster have challenges staying present in their bodies, getting out of mental fantasies or abstractions and entering into sustained purposeful action.
• When a withdrawn strategy becomes automatic and habitual the result is that life is not lived in the real world. Life goes on without their involvement.
• Withdrawn types are often experienced as being “pulled back” and away from the action. Their energy may sit at the sidelines, sometimes experimenting with the edges of participation. They may be expressive and talkative however there is some element within these individuals that can seem unreachable.
• An important part of the inner journey for those dominant in one of the 3 types in the Withdrawn triad, is moving from a Step Removed to Stepping Into Your Body and the World.
More about the Assertive types
• People in this cluster go after what they want and demand that their wants get met. Other people often know when someone from this cluster is in a room: their voice and laughter may be louder and they can exude an air of personal power and confidence. They appear to be comfortable being at the center of attention although they may also tend to keep other people at an emotional distance. They can come across as intense and demanding.
• Each of these types have trouble keeping their hearts open. Emotions can seem far too messy and efforts will be made to avoid the sense of vulnerability that comes with an open heart. Energetically people who are dominant in these three types often are experienced as having big energy, being driven and even pushy.
• An important part of the inner journey for those people dominant in one of the 3 types in the Assertive triad, is moving from Going Forward and Going for It to Opening their Precious Hearts.
More about the Dutiful types
• People in this cluster share the common personality type of having a strong inner sense of obligation. They have to take care of their responsibilities before they can have what they want. They are vigilant and constantly scanning the environment to ensure that they follow their deep inner rules and do what they need to do.
• Each of these types have difficulty quieting their minds. When the service or dutiful strategy is an automatic pattern the person tends to feel burned out, stressed by the never ending list of things that need to be fixed.
• An important part of the journey for those dominant in one of the 3 types in the Dutiful triad, is moving from Being Busy and Dutiful to Contacting the Still Mind.
Benefits of Becoming Aware of Your Interpersonal Coping Style
What’s interesting for coaches is that each of these strategies has a particular energetic quality which may be quite obvious in some individuals. When people become aware of their interpersonal coping style, they can expand their choices and make shifts in their desired outcomes.
Understanding The Enneagram
A Path for Self Discovery
Join us to explore new insights into our bodies, hearts and minds through the wisdom of the Enneagram to gain awareness into our personality and patterns of emotion, thought, and behavior. You will learn what makes you and others unique and understand what motivates you and strategies to thrive.
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This is Dr. Sally Gelardin with Careerwell tele-interivews. Our speaker today,
Gloria Taffee, has a Masters in Counseling Education and a BA in Social Work. She is a certified coach with the Deep Coaching Institute, an Accredited Enneagram School and Approved Coach Training Program with the International Coach Federation. She’s a NCC certified counselor and certified spiritual director who has worked in both the public and the private sector, and is now in private practice in Menlo Park, CA. Welcome Gloria!
- What is the Enneagram?
- How did you become interested in Enneagrams?
- How can doing an Enneagram help a person in career transition? Could you give some examples?
- Do you need to be certified or licensed to use Enneagrams? If so, how can we find out more about training programs?
- How does the Enneagram differ from other personality assessment tools, such as the MBTI? How are these two tools the same?
- Does the Enneagram mostly give insight into an indiviual's personality? Does it give insight into any other personal attributes, such as skills, values, interests, inner motivations, environmental preferences, family influences, learning style?
- How did Gurdijeff use the Enneagram?
- Could you guide listeners through the exercise I posted on your Careerwell Web Page, "Enneagram Social Style Groupings/"
- How can we learn more from you?
Thank you Gloria Taffee, thank you listeners. This is Dr. Sally Gelardin with Careerwell Tele-Interviews.