Secret #1: Simplicity
Newton's First Law of Motion
Bodies in motion tend to stay in motion.
Bodies at rest tend to stay at rest.
Stone's First Law of Mojo
Bodies in Mojo tend to stay in Mojo.
Bodies not in Mojo tend to follow the bodies that are in Mojo.
But to have Mojo, life must be simple (not complex).
The Triad that Leads to Happiness
Happiness is a byproduct of Enjoyment, and Enjoyment is a byproduct of Simplicity. Put another way, Simplicity breeds Enjoyment and Enjoyment breeds Happiness.
The Triad that Leads to UNhappiness
Complexity breeds Anxiety. Anxiety breeds Stress. And Stress breeds Unhappiness (studies also show that stress leads to illness and death).
Happiness ... in Simple Terms
Psychologists who research happiness have been saying that Simplicity is a key to happiness for awhile now. To paraphrase without the benefit of a PhD, here's why:
Focusing on a limited and manageable number of projects that we enjoy doing, enables us to experience enjoyment. As we finish one enjoyable project after another, two things are automatically generated: a) enjoyment in the moment of doing the projects, and b) lots of little successes that build our confidence and sense of accomplishment. Repeating these two experiences over and over and over, thousands of times in life, creates competence, which in turn creates confidence. Lots and lots of all of this combined creates Mojo (if you're not yet aware of the term Mojo, check out the movie Austin Powers).
Or ... we can choose to multi-task.
UNhappiness ... in Complex Terms
When we choose to live busy, 'do-run-run' lives with too many things-to-do, we end up multi-tasking as an inevitable result. There's only one problem with multi-tasking: brain scientists now agree that the brain canNOT multi-task. The brain deals with one thing at a time sequentially, and it cannot process multiple things all at once. Multi-tasking is a misnomer. It doesn't exist. So, when we ask our brains to do multiple things at once, it simply processes bits and pieces of all these things one at a time, and we miss parts of each thing we're trying to focus on.
More importantly, while trying to multi-task, we don't ever allow ourselves to get immersed in one thing to the point of enjoyment. Getting immersed in the intracasies of one thing can be the ultimate form of enjoyment. Sometimes it's called being in the 'zone' or the 'flow' due to the sensual pleasure and deep satisfaction of feeling 'at one' with something or someone in a moment in time. Opposite of 'the zone' or 'the flow', multi-tasking over an extended period of time keeps us distant from the people and things that surround us, and it becomes an infuriating process for our brains (listen to these two reports on NPR: report #1, report #2).
When our lives are complex and fast-paced, we repeat a very different pattern of experiences than we do when our lives are simple. The experiences of a complex and fast-paced life tend to be more shallow and less enjoyable. When we experience this thousands of times over and over and over, this behavior causes anxiety, stress and feelings of inadequacy.
In the midst of a life filled with complexity, stress and anxiety, it's difficult to find the space and the peace to be in the here and now with nature and with those you love and to experience the full benefit of life.
Simplicity Crisis ©
Many of the wise older people I know went through a simplicity crisis at some point in their life --- most often in their 40’s. What is a simplicity crisis? Well, they just woke up one day and realized that too much of what they did day-to-day revolved around Things. Either they were buying Things, or fixing Things, or selling Things, or moving Things, or doing paperwork for their Things. Or, they were working more and more to pay for all of their Things. Things were dominating their lives. And they found that they were interacting more and more with people in relation to managing all of their Things, rather than actually DOING enjoyable activities with their family or friends. Their Things were creating their life. The tail was wagging the dog.
Fortunately, the solution for this is rather easy: Get rid of the Things we have that aren’t contributing to our enjoyment in life. The Goal is to begin spending more time doing things we enjoy, and less time managing material possessions. It's helpful to remember that, until about 100 years ago, 99.999 percent of the people in the world didn't have Things. They lived close to the earth and close to each other. The Zen Buddha calls this "no-thing-ness".
Multitasking & Relationships
The same simplicity concept can be translated to relationships as well. For millions of years, the lack of transportation technology limited travel, and thus limited the number of people we could come in contact with on a daily basis. Our DNA carries with it the ability to build meaningful relationships with only a limited number of people. It takes a lot of our brain power and much of our personal spirit to build the complex interpersonal webs necessary for these relationships. To build these webs, the environment must be supportive (with opportunities to interact with people in a meaningful way, with limited distractions).
The corporate world (by its very nature) shatters these boundaries with airline travel, masses of people in one building, hundreds of intertwined issues in a single day, and the notion that networking with lots of people at a shallow level is somehow a key to success. Most environments even stack guilt on the person who doesn't juggle the webs required for multitasking and networking.
There is a seismic shift happening in the business world today. Our next generation of leaders are operating under a different set of values than their parents. These values are centered on things like 'meaning' and intrinsic rewards rather than extrensic rewards like status, power or the accumulation of material Things. More and more businesses and organizations are recognizing this, and they are turning the traditional corporate model on its head. These are the organizations at the top of the 'most innovative' lists in business magazines (i.e. Fast Company & Businessweek). Over the next decade, organizations will need to follow these leaders and transition into more open innovative models to survive and compete.
© Steven Mark Stone
